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Transformational Coaching
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For many people, 2009 has been a year for taking the bull by the horns and making big changes. Saturn and Uranus have been forming an opposition during the course of year which has been creating an energetic tension. This is often experienced as either a clash between old and new or conflicting desires between wanting to maintain the status quo and to invite radical change. Many people are looking for creative solutions to old problems, or are being presented with the opportunity to have a complete overhaul in their lives. But how can we successfully navigate change when we feel caught in the middle of opposing forces?
When we take an extreme stand in something, we often find ourselves suddenly and unexpectedly swinging in the opposite direction. If we feel undecided then we may swing between the two opposites many times, believing that if we could just choose the best way to go and then stick to it, everything would be ok. The more seemingly opposite our choices are, the greater the sense of tension and the more ferocious the game of mental tennis becomes.
When we focus on opposites and flip our attention from one side to the other, we often miss the bigger picture. We may take impulsive action then worry that it was the wrong thing to do. We may start a change of direction and suddenly want to back out. Or we may become frozen in fear and refuse to take any action at all because we are too fixated on finding the right option. In this state of inner conflict we can miss the simple message our psyche is trying to present to us: It is time for a change.
Rather than getting distracted by the inner tennis match we can chose stand still and ask ourselves; ‘what in my current situation is making me unhappy?’ When we appear to be faced with two conflicting options we need to take time to reach an understanding rather than simply reacting to the discomfort. Sometimes we discover that a radical change is indeed required – that is is the only way out of an untenable situation. However, often we discover is that there is a way of making the required changes in a gentle step by step manner, without the need to turn our lives upside down.
Ultimately growth requires both change and stability. When you plant a seed you will eventually have to re-pot it so that it can continue to flourish. Saturn represents the soil and the pot that supports it. The seedling needs this to give it stability while it grows strong roots. But when it becomes ready, the seedling will need the upheaval represented by Uranus; to be re-potted or planted into the wild.
Some people are prone to getting pot-bound and attached to the status quo (Saturn). Others impulsively re-pot at the slightest provocation (Uranus). Both these extreme reactions hinder the growth process because a balanced approach is required. If we refuse to budge, the rug will often get pulled from under our feet. And if we throw everything up in the air without any consideration for our need for security or proper timing – we create unnecessary stress or instability in our lives. The following steps will help you keep your balance while navigating changes in your life:
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Always pay attention to the need for change as soon as it arises.
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Seek to understand what exactly is making you unhappy in your current situation.
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Take time identifying all options that are available to you. If it seems like an ‘all or nothing’ decision then look for the ‘middle way’ – things are rarely simply black or white.
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If you feel ready for a radical change and you are in a position to do so without creating unnecessary stress then go for it! (See if you feel the same way consistently for at least a week.) However, if you find you keep changing your mind about what you should do, it is a sign that you need to take a different approach. In this case, identify moderate actions and manageable steps you can take that will enable you to test the water, gather relevant information and/or approach the current situation from a different perspective.
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Trust that when you are willing, the right path will reveal itself to you at the right time, and that you will know what needs to be done. Remember, the Universe is always on your side when you chose to walk the path of personal growth.
Sometimes you will discover all that was required of you was a change of perspective. Other times going ahead and making small changes will help you build the confidence that will enable you to make a radical change later. If you are ever not sure about leaving something behind – it is worth trying to do things differently and seeing if things can change before deciding to let it go. If you have tried doing things differently and you discover things are still not right, then you can trust your decision to move on.
Many people find these steps challenging and would benefit from the support of someone experienced in facilitating the process of change. Coaching can help you identify inner needs and values, explore your options and create a plan of action that works for you. So, if you discover you are ready to get your life moving and feel you would benefit from dedicated support, my Transformational Coaching telephone service may be just what you have been waiting for…
‘I highly recommend Freya as a coach to anyone who wishes to live their life to its full potential.’
Paul Trott – Head of Commercial IT Services
♣ Transformational Coaching with Freya (Qualified UKCLC 2002)
If you were to change anything in your life, what would it be?
Sometimes we discover that something in our life needs to change. Perhaps we reach a cross roads and need to make some important decisions. Maybe we feel stressed and need to de-clutter our life to get things back on track. Other times we have a deep yearning to discover our life purpose or to find a way to turn our dreams into a reality. Wouldn’t it be amazing to have someone who was 100% committed to supporting you on your journey of personal transformation?
Life coaching offers a valuable opportunity to work toward reaching goals in any area of your life. My role as your coach is to ask the right questions to help you find the answers and to support you as you make any necessary changes in your life. Coaching is essentially an empowering process which enables you to move forward in your life with confidence and purpose. So, if you seek clarity, motivation and personal growth then a life coach may be just what you are looking for.
Life Coaching can support you with any of the following:
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Discovering your true life purpose
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Developing time management and organisational skills
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Improving intimate relationships
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Achieving personal and professional goals
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De-cluttering your life
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Dating skills
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Creating a better work-life balance
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Making important decisions
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Learning how to attract the right partner for you
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Developing inner confidence and motivation
The aim of my work is to offer guidance and support to those who are embarking on a journey of self discovery and personal transformation.
Transformational Coaching:
1 hour session £60
4 x 1 hour sessions £200
(Concessions available, please ask.)
Please note – coaching sessions will usually be conducted on the telephone. My land line telephone number will be provided once you have booked.
‘Life coaching has inspired me. A session with Freya is like going into your mind to have a good clean out. She acts as an anchor and helps you find your own answers.’
Jane Harold, Restaurant Manager
‘Focussing on my career I developed important strategies for creating new directions. I would recommend coaching with Freya to anyone who feels they need a fresh perspective.’
Elin Thomas, Abstract Painter
‘I was surprised at just how much clearer I became in my thinking and goal setting. I recommend anyone to try life coaching.’
Niki Williams, Zoharra Clothing Company
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