101 ‘Feel Good’ Things To Do FOR FREE!

Here is a list of 101 ‘feel good’ things to do FOR FREE! Well, some may cost you a little bit, but there are plenty to choose from that won’t cost you a penny and all have an in built ‘feel good’ factor.

If you want some inspiration or if you are feeling bored, unmotivated or restless, dip into the list and see what takes your fancy! If you have difficulty choosing an activity, pick your favourite five and write them on little pieces of paper. The fold them up and choose one at random. Have fun and let me know how you get on! If you think of anything else I can add to the list, please let me know. Freya ; )

1. Pay someone a compliment

2. Make a new friend by inviting them over for coffee

3. Re-pot or tend your house plants

4. Go through your paperwork

5. Visit a spiritual or religious place

6. Spend some time on your own

7. Organise a games night

8. Offer to do a skills swap

9. Practice a new language

10. Start a gratitude diary

11. Go window shopping

12. Look through old photos

13. Lie on the bed and daydream

14. Write a poem

15. Take a photo

16. Drop in on someone as a surprise

17. Give something away

18. Have an early night

19. Make a fire

20. Listen to a favourite album

21. Do a guided meditation or an inner journey

22. Go out and enjoy nature

23. Strike up a conversation with a stranger

24. Paint or draw a picture

25. Ask someone to dare you!

26. Clean out a cupboard or set of draws

27. Ask someone to teach you something new

28. Take some old things to charity

29. Give yourself a tarot reading

30. Make someone a gift or card

31. Do a random act of kindness

32. Write some affirmations and use one all day

33. Write a list of your goals for the next year

34. Create a treasure hunt for friends or children

35. Give something up for a week (eg TV, coffee, facebook, newspapers etc)

36. Make music with other people

37. Text a friend

38. Try a new recipe or dish

39. Go for a walk and explore your local area

40. Put on some jewelry or clothes you haven’t worn for ages

41. Join a self help group

42. Organise a clothes or book swap party

43. Contact a friend or relative you have lost touch with

44. Hug a tree

45. Do a spring clean

46. Feed some ducks

47. Mend something

48. Go fishing

49. Enroll on a free course

50. Do a ‘letting go’ ritual or ceremony

51. Ask a friend to recommend a book

52. Listen to an old record (CD or tape)

53. Ride a bike or go skating

54. Tell someone you love them

55. Meditate or do some yoga

56. Walk a dog

57. Journal your feelings

58. Write a real letter or post card to someone you care about

59. Go on a day trip and take a packed lunch

60. Make a wish list

61. Browse a music or book shop

62. Watch a foreign or arty film

63. Bake a cake or make some jam

64. Make something you haven’t made before

65. Ask a friend for a massage swap

66. Get books out from the library

67. Invite friends over for a girls’ or lads’ night

68. Email some good news to your friends and family

69. Pick up some litter

70. Visit a free museum or art gallery

71. Teach yourself something new

72. Go out for a coffee or a walk in the park and take a book

73. Do something you have been meaning to do for ages!

74. Volunteer for a local conservation group

75. Babysit for a friend or relative

76. Get dressed up or create a new outfit

77. Go through your wardrobe and get rid clothes you don’t wear

78. Work on an allotment or do some gardening

79. Phone a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while

80. Read an old diary

81. Write a list of all your achievements

82. Visit the mountains or sea

83. Do something silly like paint your face

84. Visit an elderly or sick relative

85. Volunteer at a community centre or youth club

86. Have a luxury scented bath with candles

87. Practice a musical instrument or sing

88. Spend a whole evening in bed

89. Visit a new place by bike or foot

90. Cook for friends or family

91. Start a dream journal

92. Arrange to see someone you have not seen for over a year

93. Have breakfast in bed!

94. Go for a moonlit walk

95. Volunteer on a helpline

96. Invite friends over for a boogie in your home

97. Enter a competition

98. Write a five year plan

99. Do a puzzle or quiz

100. Invite a friend over to watch a film

101. Get a pen pal from another country

Manifesting Mr Wonderful Reader Comments and Questions

The story so far…

This month my new book Manifesting Mr Wonderful is available to buy in bookshops and online. At the beginning of 2008 I asked myself the question ‘how do you manifest a great relationship?’ I had read lots of books on manifesting but none seemed to focus on the challenges of manifesting a love relationship, something which I had personally struggled with. Six months later I had answered my question, started running a support group for women and completed the book. And by the end of the year I had signed a publishing contract with O Books!

I wanted to create a space on this website for readers to post their comments and questions about the concepts in the book.

There is additional information on the website page ‘Manifesting Mr Wonderful’.

I look forward to reading your comments and questions soon…

Freya x

Radio Interview

Check the podcast of my radio interview on Manifesting Mr Wonderful…

It was aired on Bristol Community Radio 93.2 fm (BCfm) on Thursday 18th Feb between at 6.15 pm.

Post your comments here!

Freya x

Freya’s Astro Advice

February 2010

ARIES

Death, Rhodochrosite, Reflection

The profound change that has been taking place has finally reached its conclusion. There is no going back and it would not be beneficial to even if you could. It is time to let go and accept the new order. Either a child or your inner child (or both?) also needs to be supported through this process. Take time to slow down so you can reflect on the lessons that have been learned.

TAURUS

Ace of Swords, Lace Agate, Challenge

Something is blocking your path. You have a clear direction but you are not sure how to handle this obstacle. You may be inclined to give the obstacle a hard time but it will only dig its feet in further. Channel your famous stubbornness into clarity of purpose and the mental determination to find a solution. Do not seek to push against the barrier, instead use gentleness and encouragement.

GEMINI

Knight of Cups, Bloodstone, Synthesis

Things start coming together nicely this month. A new job, relationship or opportunity comes along and may even take you by surprise. It may feel ‘lucky’ but really it is the natural conclusion to what you have been quietly working towards. However, this opportunity may make you feel nervous because it will require you to courageously step out of your comfort zone to claim what’s yours.

CANCER

Knight of Staffs, Amber, Love

You want to start a new chapter in your life. You want to forge ahead with enthusiasm and positivity but something is holding you back. When you think about it you seem to start fearing that you will lose someone or something you love if you go ahead. What is actually holding you back is lack of self confidence. You can do what you want. And remember you can never lose what is truly yours.

LEO

The Wheel of Fortune, Lepidolite, Gestation

Things may have changed but the outcome of those changes is still up in the air. You may want it all be to done and dusted but that is not the nature of things. A process of change has begun but you are in the gestation period and it is important to be patient. Instead of channelling your precious energy into futile worrying, use this time to focus your mind on manifesting the positive outcome you want.

VIRGO

The Star, Fluorite, Air

There is still a strong connection to Spirit and you are aware of a wonderful opportunity for healing and renewal. Spring may not yet have arrived, but you are feeling a distinct stirring under the covers! While you are waiting for things to develop, turn your energy to matters of the mind. Perhaps you have some work to get on with? Any communications or writing are beneficial now.

LIBRA

10 Vesicas, Citrine, Reflection

Money is on your mind this month. Perhaps you receive some and you are thinking about what to do with it? Or are you thinking about how to make more in the future? Whatever your current situation, this is a month for reflection. You need to evaluate your habits for creating, saving and spending your money. Changes need to be made that will benefit you financially in the long run.

SCORPIO

6 Cups, Kunzite, Conception

I see the beginning of a wonderful love affair! Okay it may or may not be Mr/s Wonderful but either way, it is definitely something to smile about… Someone is really into you, and whether it is a lover, friend, boss or client, you need to trust this great feeling. You have weeded out the less desirables from your life and you are now emotionally free for the ‘real thing’. Embrace the new connection!

SAGGITARIUS

8 Cups, Haematite, Fear

What are you afraid of? I mean really?! It seems you think you are scared of something but if you were to peel away the layers, you either have no case for it or you are actually scared of something completely different. Either way, it is definitely time to get to the bottom of things because it is holding you back. It is time to confront your fears with determination and a steady sword.

CAPRICORN

King of Swords, Chrysocolla, Creativity

You tend to take your responsibilities very seriously. You can be extremely tough with yourself about ‘doing what is right’ but are not so clear about others’ responsibilities toward you because you fear having to be as hard on others as you are on yourself. Actually there is no need to be so hard on yourself or others! Look for creative ways to get across what is bothering you in a direct manner.

AQUARIUS

5 Vesicas, Turquoise, Change

You are not sure how you feel right now. You can see a bright future but you can also see that you will have to endure some hardship to get there, and you are not sure how you feel about this. While you are aware of the hardship and the bright future – what you can’t see right now is how things are going to change. All you can do is trust that things will change and maybe sooner than you think!

PISCES

Queen of Cups, Carnelian, Choice

Pisces, you do have a choice about how you feel. Negative emotions have an important role to play and expressing them is both healthy and necessary. However, holding onto them will only rob you of your joy and energy. It is time to ground your emotions. Look for ways to inspire feelings of love and gratitude, then visualise holding your positive feelings in your heart and watch them expand!

Psyche in the City – ‘How can we effectively deal with bullying?’

‘Once we accept that we have no control over a bully, we can bring the focus back to ourselves.’ Freya ♥

In our society, we have a long history of unequal relationships such as slave and owner, servant and master, King and subject. Although society has changed and bullying is no longer considered socially acceptable, it is unfortunately a deeply ingrained behaviour that many people resort to, particularly in times of stress. So, if we are likely to come a cross a bully at some point in our adult lives, what’s the best way to deal with them?

If we experience prolonged feelings of powerlessness in childhood, we are catapulted into a very frightening place. Usually we adopt coping strategies such as people pleasing, perfectionism, or being overly apologetic in an attempt to regain a sense of security. However, sometimes a child will seek to overcome their feelings of victimisation by hurting others. In essence, bullying is a childish attempt to hide overwhelming feelings of fear and inadequacy from others and ourselves.

Most adults will also respond to bullying by trying to either placate or fight back. When we chose to challenge, confront, placate or avoid; what we are actually doing is trying to control the bullying by becoming stronger, invisible or a ‘better’ person. However, trying to control the bullying doesn’t work for two reasons: Firstly, you cannot change or control another person; you are completely powerless over the bully. Secondly, you are not the cause of the bully’s behaviour; until they deal with their unresolved feelings, they are highly unlikely to change.

Once we accept that we have no control over a bully or their behaviour, we can bring the focus back to ourselves. Many people discover that they have their own unresolved feelings about being bullied in childhood and consequently respond from a heightened state of fear or anger. Unfortunately reacting from these unresolved feelings will only exacerbate the situation further. If you find you are being repeatedly or severely bullied as an adult it may be time to go back and rescue the wounded child of your past through counselling or therapy.

Essentially, the only way to deal with a bully is to stop handing our power over to them. True power lies in an unshakable sense of self – not in having control over others or their behaviour. Once we are adult, no one has the power to make us feel bad unless we allow them to. When we have a solid sense of self, we trust our feelings, capabilities and worth, no matter what. When we choose to take responsibility for our own feelings of security, we no longer need to try and control the bullying in order to feel safe.

There are many situations in which you may find yourself feeling bullied. Some bullies set out to scare or hurt while others are simply unaware of the effect their behaviour is having on the people around them. The bullying may be as overt as a physical threat or as subtle as a snide comment. Whatever the intention or the tactics, the best way to handle the bullying depends on the relationship you have with them.

If you are being bullied by a friend or partner, it is important to find the strength to address your fears. Identify what needs to change, then firmly and gently set your boundaries. If those boundaries are not respected, then time apart may well be the next step. If the issue is with your spouse or live in partner, then more time and effort may be required to find a solution. If over time you have set clear boundaries and they continue to try and bully you, then it may be time to find the self respect to walk away. The key point here is that ultimately you need to expect respectful treatment from those you choose to be in a relationship with.

On the other hand, you may not have chosen to be in a the relationship with the bully. Perhaps it is someone you work with or someone who is part of another group you are involved in. In this case you cannot terminate the relationship without potentially losing out in other ways. If you chose to stay, your best bet is to remain as neutral as possible. This means avoiding being overly apologetic or getting into power games. Find a way to internally accept them for the way they are without excusing their behaviour. Choose not to deal with them unless you have to and approach any necessary interactions with calm inner confidence. And remember, if haven’t chosen to be in a relationship with someone, what they say or do shouldn’t ultimately matter to you.

When it comes to a bully in the family things can get very tricky, especially if it is a parent. It can be a daunting prospect to challenge the status quo and you will probably benefit from additional support while you do it. You can either decide to discover a new self respect and put up some boundaries or you can simply distance yourself and deal with them in the same way you would a work colleague. Either way, the key to dealing with a bully in the family is to keep reminding yourself that you are no longer a powerless child and ultimately you depend on yourself for security.

You may find that when you let go of your fear of bullying, that suddenly it doesn’t affect you so much. You may find you can put the behaviour down to stress or an unforgiving upbringing and let it go. You may even discover when you stop being afraid of their reactions, that you can successfully negotiate with them as an equal. Or you may decide that their behaviour is indeed untenable and that you would rather walk away. And if you choose to walk away at this stage, you can do it with a calm inner confidence and a smile on your face.